Looking back on my own journey to authenticity, I realize that the first step – getting to know myself, was exciting and captivating – as long as I only looked at the things I liked about myself!
Being an observer of all aspects of ourselves – without judgment – can be the hardest step of all. Our inner critic or judge comes from our earlier experiences and conditioning. Over time it can become such a habit, that we think that this voice is the real one. We have listened to it for years and believe it to be the truth.
Some of us have one predominant inner critic, while others seem to have whole committee. It may sound like a scolding parent, an impatient caregiver, a critical teacher or an angry sibling. These thoughts comes from the ego-mind, and is a creation of the mind. It is not who we truly are.
The fact that we can begin to hear this voice is a clue. We are aware of this voice, but we are not this voice.
I came to see over the years, that self realization cannot happen without being compassionate towards ourselves. Otherwise we continue to do the practice, meditate, read books, take courses, and tell ourselves we are on the path. We become seekers forever, seeking out other seekers.
When we get to know our inner selves with kindness and acceptance we can fully embrace our lives and open up to living fully and authentically without fear.
The truth is, without self compassion and understanding, you are stuck. You won’t move forward unless you face reality; Acknowledge the truth of where you are; Get to know yourself with a kind heart; Embrace your shadow; Face the fears and wounds from the past that are sure to come up.
Getting real about ourselves is an empowering step on our evolution as human beings. When we accept ourselves just as we are, without judgment – on the yoga mat or off it – then we find our middle ground.
It took me years to get over this conditioning and to start being kind and accepting of myself.
Its never too late to start on this journey of acceptance and self compassion. The next time you hear your inner critic, ask yourself
“Is this really the truth or could this be a habit that no longer serves me”?
Then give yourself a big hug, turn to face the warmth of the sun and put the shadow behind you.
Namaste
